We all wish that our loved ones stay with us forever, but to find a healthy relationship and sustaining it might not be as easy as it appears. Relationships require hard work, especially when the honeymoon phase is over. This is when your relationship is put to real test. So it might be best to avoid some mistakes which might eventually lead you to lose your significant other:
Relationships are about mutual understanding between two equals, and not about establishing ‘who’s the boss’. If you enter into a power struggle with your lover, there’s a very high likelihood your paramour might not stick around to see who won the battle. So avoid entering into the dynamic where you are ordering your partner around, and instead understand the importance of compromise in a relationship.
Not Appreciating Your Partner
If you don’t appreciate your partner for who they are and what they do, your partner is sure not going to extend you the same courtesy. Your partner should know how important they are in your life, and how much you value them. Small compliments time and again, go a long way to help strengthen your relationship.
Relationships are based on trust and understanding. Secrets have no place in a strong relationship. You cannot expect your partner to trust you if you keep dodging their questions every chance you get. Be open to your partner and entrust them with all tidbits about you. This will not only help your relationship grow stronger but also make your partner feel special.
Work is important, but at what cost. Do not prioritize work over your relationship at all times. This will make your partner feel neglected, and will lead to altercations which might be the graveyard for your relationship. Make sure to take out time from your busy schedule for those romantic getaways, so that your partner feels loved.
Me before Us
Relationship is between two people. If you only care for what’s important to you and neglect the needs of your lover, you might find yourself standing all alone in an empty apartment. Your partner is your equal and you should make sure they know that.
Most of the times, women are the emotional ones in a relationship and men are expected to not show emotions. What we need to do is relearn some of these facts which might be misleading. Men need emotional support as much as women need it. And women are not always the sensitive ones in a relationship. We should be responsive to our partner’s emotions at all times.
Relationships need a certain level of co-dependence. Your partner should feel needed and in return, they should know why they need you as well. It is important that your partner does not feel like a burden to you or your lifestyle. So shower your partner with affection and make them feel wanted so they keep coming back for more.
“Fixing the Problem”
When you enter a relationship, it’s about knowing the person in front of you, and liking them the way they are. Every person has flaws, and ‘love’ means accepting the person before you despite those flaws. Your partner would not appreciate it if you view them as a problem to be fixed. So try not to make your partner a project that needs work, but make sure they know that they’re beautiful and lovable just the way they are.
Loss of Attraction
Most of the times, a relationship becomes mundane if you’re not willing to take the next step. You have to keep your partner at the edge of their seats, and not take a back foot just because you’re in a secure relationship. Try spicing things up to make sure that your partner knows every day, how lucky they are to have you around.
Do not seek revenge for every small mistake your partner makes. Learn to forgive and forget, so that your partner doesn’t feel they’re treading on eggshells around you. Your partner is not going to stick around if they feel they need to protect their back from you at all times. So try negotiating and reaching a cordial solution to every argument instead of plotting and planning against your loved one.
“There is no straight-jacket formula to cracking the code to a perfect relationship. All you can do is enjoy the company of your lover and hope for it to last, but most importantly, you should make sure your partner knows how lucky you feel to have them around.”